I truly believe that how you use language will influence how you feel and what you create. Here's a powerful example:
Say to yourself, "I am not good enough." Notice how this feels.
Now say, " I'm feeling not good enough."
How do they feel different to you?
Most people experience "I am" as being more fixed and permanent, and "I feel" as being more temporary with more possibility for change.
How often are you feeling something negative, yet you use "I am" language and end up feeling like it's a permanent feature of who you are? (Like I am fat, I am slow, I am sad, I am no good at -x-, I am unmotivated, etc.)
If your "I am" statements are more positive and make you feel good, then by all means, keep doing it!
If, however, you're making yourself feel bad; please remember to change your language to "I'm feeling..." . (Like I feel fat, I feel slow, I feel sad, I feel like I'm no good at -x-, I feel unmotivated, etc.)
Then remember that it's just a temporary reaction to something you're telling yourself. What story is going on inside your head? If you heard your friend speaking that way, what would you say to them? Would you say, "I know. That's so true! You ARE inadequate! You never do anything right!" Really? How would you help them to see it differently? Try it for yourself!
If you can't seem to come up with a different perspective on your bad-feeling story, imagine someone else's perspective. Who do you know, or know of, that would see you and think about your inner story differently? My personal favorite is to try on the perspective of Source Energy/Spirit/God.
You are not fixed. You are pure potentiality! You create your experience moment to moment. Use your words wisely.
If you feel like your thoughts have control over you and you'd like to be able to manage your thoughts and emotions more effectively, please contact me to explore if my new possibilities private coaching is a good fit for you. I'll guide and support you in a very individualized and personal way so you can experience all the harmony, happiness and success that you desire.
Supporting you in greater ease and joy, with a warm heart,