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How to make amazing things happen in your life

8/20/2013

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If you think about it, nothing really amazing happens in your life until you make a decision: getting married, buying a home, choosing a job or career, where to go on vacation, and so on.

And, in nearly every circumstance where a significant breakthrough or up-leveling happens for you, if you trace back, you made a decision.
 

Whether you decide yes or no, or maybe, or later, they are all decisions; which means a direction, a future, is activated.  The question is, is it the future you really want?
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Indecision, thinking about it, delaying, postponing, and everything along that line can be the culprit for missed opportunities and dreams unfulfilled.  You are creating a future based on the sameness of your current situation.  If that current situation is a good one, with strong potential in place, then that's fine, of course!  But if you're not feeling good about your current situation, then it's pretty likely that's not the future you want to create.  That not so good feeling is your inner guidance calling you to something bigger and better - to what  you really want, versus what you're just accepting.

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What keeps you from making decisions that support what you want are simply fears and limiting beliefs like: what if this doesn't work; what if I can't do it; I can't afford it; what if it's not possible for me, and so on.  You've heard them before, I'm sure. And, they don't feel good, do they?  That feeling, again, is your inner guidance reminding you, like a rumble strip on the highway, that you're off track.  Those are limited, small, ego-based fears and beliefs, versus the ones of your true, higher self. 

What would the greater you, the you that is one with God/Source Energy/the Universe believe and say? Heck, what would anyone who believes in you say?

When you really, really wanted something in the past and made it happen in spite of your perceived limitations (like that vacation you made happen), how did you pull that off?  What kind of thinking did you uphold that allowed you to follow through and succeed?

If an opportunity shows up and something inside of you is drawn to it, I suggest you honor that calling and challenge any limited thinking that tries to hold you back.  Let something amazing happen for you!

If you need help getting free of that dis-empowering thinking that keeps you stuck, you know who to call!  E-mail me at annide@newpossibilitiescoaching.com to schedule a complimentary happiness upgrade activation call to activate a new future for you!

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Inner Way Weight Loss group starting Sept. 17th!

Do you ever feel like you're living inside a fat suit, like the "real" you is inside? Do you look in the mirror with disbelief?

I remember when I felt that way. And, in spite of all my coaching skills, I couldn't get myself to do anything about it. Until I decided I'd had enough, and committed to applying what I knew to getting my "real" body back. Without doing that, it felt too hard and unpleasant; and, as I've said before, I'm committed to joy and ease!

So I finally took care of the inner resistance and confused beliefs, and then I was experiencing more joy and ease than ever! It feels so good to be light again.
If you're overweight and struggling with it, then there is definitely something "inside" holding you back. It could be inner conflicts about healthy practices. It could be limiting beliefs. It could be ineffective motivation strategies. It could be ineffective strategies for dealing with stress and emotions. Most likely, it's a combination of these.

Perhaps it's time to make your decision to learn how to make it easy to recover the healthy, slender body inside of you.

We start in a few weeks! Either Tuesday evenings, starting Sept. 17th, or Wednesday mornings, starting Sept. 18th.

Go here for all the details:
http://www.newpossibilitiescoaching.com/inner-way-weight-loss.html

"Things are going well for me. As I'm writing this, I've lost about 45 lbs from the time we started the group. At the start of the program, I definitely felt what I described as "stuck." About week 2 or 3 in the program, I learned that "stuck" meant that parts of me were fighting back against the changes I was trying to make. Understanding that these parts of me that did not want to change had a positive intent was a revelation. Learning to see myself and understand myself through this kinder and more positive process has been liberating. So now I am happier, kinder to myself, and able to let go of things, thoughts, and behaviors that no longer work for me.

Physically, I am feeling more energetic and less exhausted. I really like using the motivation strategies; and I think that has made a profound difference for me. I exercise almost every day now, enjoy it, and miss it when I don't get a chance!

Looking back, it seems like all the changes I've made are because they are now what I want to do and feel right doing, rather than needing to use willpower like in the past. I am enjoying my weight loss as a process, learning to relax and understand that I am loveable and worthy as I am in this moment; and that being slender will not make me any more loveable and worthy, or any happier than I am in this moment. It will be nice to have the benefits of being slender, fit and healthy; but in the present, I can be happy and healthy and active, and grateful for what is." Joy L.

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How to get over the need to look good and get approval

8/13/2013

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I find it so common to be concerned about what others think of us, to seek approval, and to "look good". Sometimes this happens consciously, sometimes unconsciously.  Does this happen to you?
  It can be the cause for a subtle, underlying ripple of stress; or it can create outright suffering.

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In my last blog, I suggested that we have innate strategies for survival.  Along that line, I believe this propensity to want to be liked and have others' approval is also an outdated survival strategy.   In way, way, way earlier times, when we lived in isolated areas in a single clan or tribe, it most likely was really important for survival not be outcast from the community.  You literally might have been left on your own.

But is this truly the case today; or are you just imagining it to be the case without further inquiry?  Personally, I think it's just another outdated thought "virus".  We now have a multitude of groups, people and contexts through which we can find belonging.   In fact, we have so many options now, we can be selective!

If you still feel challenged by this, it's only a symptom of limiting beliefs and stories (more thought "viruses") that you're holding onto.

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When I was in elementary school, I was always the last one picked for the teams.  At least that's my memory of it.  Back then, the meaning I attached to that recurrence was that I wasn't likeable or good enough.  Naturally, this negatively impacted me for years!

Now I know differently.  It didn't mean anything other than I wasn't perceived as competent at that particular game.  And, I wasn't!  AND, I didn't even like to play!  I preferred other forms of fun. 

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There's a saying now, "Get in where you fit in."  Maybe in school we didn't have a choice about whether we played kickball, or not; but now we do.  Knowing what you know now, you can hold your center and your sense of value, and ask, "Who's a match for me?"  YOU get to do the picking and approving! 

When the concern for looking good or getting approval kicks in, ask yourself if this is appropriate given the context it's in.  For the sake of what do you have this concern?  Is it really necessary? Maybe at work it's appropriate in very particular ways.  What specifically are people counting on you for?  What do they need of you?   If it's an ongoing struggle to fit in there, maybe it's not the best place for you.  Believe that it's possible to find a new job or department that's a better fit; and proceed to do so.

Are there other groups that you're kinda stuck with that aren't really a match for you?  Instead of thinking of it as a whole, perhaps there are at least some individuals you can connect with on some level. 


Life is not a reality show.  There are very few situations in which people have the right to judge you.  You don't have to give them that permission.  Focus on all the ways you're wonderful and on what YOU like in the people in  your life; and you will find each other.

Have fun!

Ann


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